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Main Discussion Area => Around the Campfire => Topic started by: El Destructo on March 16, 2011, 11:56:16 pm
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Just the Call ..No Son or Daughter want to hear.... My Father has Leukemia...and the Specialists have given Him 2 week...or Less to get His affairs in order....Like this Man hasn't been through enough...survived aggressive Prostate Cancer...only to get Bladder Cancer from the Radiation Treatments....and He was doing fine....till he got Pneumonia in one Lung...and was not getting better...did test and came back with this Bombshell....sometimes you just have to wonder...Why?
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That's a really tough break, El D. We're all here for you, whatever you need.
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I'm very sorry to hear this , Mike. I went through it last year and it's never easy. If I can do anything or you just want to talk, just call. I'm in Tx right now, be home this weekend.
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El D
I'm very sorry to hear this news. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your Dad.
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Mike, truly sorry to hear that :(
your father,you and your families are in our thoughts
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Sorry to hear the news Mike. Just know we are all here for you and you will be in our prayers.
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Thanks Guys....
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Dang Mike, I hate to hear that. I'll be praying.
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Sorry to hear this Mike Thoughts and prayers from my family to yours PM me if you need to talk
Ron
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Dang Mike, I'm sorry for your family and our prayers are with you.
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So sorry to hear this Mike. You and your family are in our thoughts. Times like this family needs to be together.
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talking to the Boss tomorrow...going to see how much time I can get off...need to get all our affairs in order..and soon by the sounds of it...
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Sorry to hear that. He's been through a lot!
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Mike sorry to hear about that. PM sent.
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Mike: We hve a saying in our family, "get your tough skins on" cause it will not be easy! Some things in life just stink! Will make a pipe prayer for him! A/ho Joe
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Sorry to hear that Mike,that is tough.Thoughts and prayers with you and your Father. :)
Pappy
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Sorry to hear this Mike. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Praying for you buddy!
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Thanks Joe....I would be honored...Ronnie...Pappy....Charlie...and Jeff ...I appreciate the gesture....just goes to show just how limited our time here really is....
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Sorry to hear that Mike... I know he has been through alot the past couple of years... I will be praying for him.
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Will be thinking about you El D.
Lane
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Sorry to hear this Mike, my thoughts will be with you and your family !
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Very sorry to hear...
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Prayers sent from Missouri, sorry you all bear such a burden.
Jeff
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Mike, I am so sorry to hear this. He has had such a struggle. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Pm sent.
Wayne
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Sorry to hear , El D - hang in there.
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That's a lot of bad health problems culminating in some terrible news :(
Sending wishes for what time remains to be peaceful and pain-free...
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Thanks again Guys....I too hope and pray that he can just go peacefully in his sleep...he has been fighting to beat all odds for years now....he is a fighter....but its hard to keep fighting when your body is giving up.....
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That's very tough news to hear, Mike. I cared for my Dad through the chemo and radiation and held his hand when he departed.
There's no easy way unfortunately. I will think of you and your family through it, you have my sincere consideration.
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So sorry to hear that Buddy. That's a tough one. Our thoughts and prayers are going out to you guys, hang in there,--Josh
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Prayers sent up from Indiana Mike. Hate to hear the bad news.
David
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Sorry for the bad news. Prayers sent and hoping for peace for you and yours.
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Your family will be in my prayers.
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Tough news El. Times like these always reminds me of the of the scriptures from Ecclesiastes. For everything there is a season.
Prayers sent up.
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Prayers here also! Art
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All of the Prayers are Much Appreciated....Times like these put the Fear of Ones Mortality into your Soul...It is never easy losing a Loved one....but to lose them to an Evil Demon such as Cancer...is just hard to swallow
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Thoughts and prayers El D. (There are few words) ' Frank
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Thank You Frank...I am heading to Upper Michigan tomorrow...to be with Him for what time He has left.
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Mike, that is terrible news, you know many of us will have you in our prayers. Think of this if you will though, my poor Aunt. She had to take my uncle to the doctor the other day. He needed surgery on Thursday in Florida, he is diabetic. They removed bone and flesh from his right foot. Later due to something from the surgery getting into his brain, he had a stroke. He is now in intensive care and is not responsive. Now while this is happening my aunt gets a call the her retired sister in Mississippi has just been diagnosed with brain cancer, and has days to live. She obviously can not leave my uncle. If you think it couldn't get worse, she got another call on Saturday, that my 38 year old cousin had been rushed to the hospital in Lewiston, ME. He had a heart attack, and my Mom has told me that just another ten minutes and he would not have made it. He had emergency heart surgery, and looks as though he will pull through. Like I said my poor aunt, she is bearing the stress as well as she can. Her logic is, this really stinks, but I have no control over any of it, and can do nothing about it, so I am not going to let this destroy me. She also said that if the worst happened and she lost them all, it is okay, because she was blessed to have had them as long as she has, and will be thankful of that. Good luck Mike, and Godspeed.
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Lombard - your aunt has a rare outlook on life. Something perhaps we could all aspire to.
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Thanks everyone....I am on my way home as I type this....to spend as much time with Him as I can....going to be the hardest trip Home that I have ever taken...
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Mike
Stay strong brother you're dad will need you to be strong for him. Ronnie
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That's going to be tough...cause He's the one thats always like a rock....not me.
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Sorry to hear this Mike.
Held my father's hand when he passed away, so I know what you are talking about...
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Thanks Frank...
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Been following this thread... hang in there Mike. We're with ya.
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Thanks Patrick
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40 miles north of Green Bay....130 miles to go....
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Sorry to hear the news Mike. You'll all be in our thoughts and prayers Bro.
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I feel sorry for ya sir. No good person deserves that, it really does make ya ask why. Im gonna give a tobacco offering to the sky's tonight brother
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It's always hard to hear this sort of news and it never helps to say we are sorry, but we are here. If you feel like talking talk, if you feel like being still be still, it you feel like crying then let it all out and then learn to breath slowly. I can't say I know what you're going through because it's different for us all when we get this sort of news, but I can say I know how I felt and it was terrible. Hang in there and remember this to shall pass.
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Thanks guys....I am hanging in there...trying to be the Strong Son....and Oldest Brother to all....it's going pretty well so far.... but I am sure it is going to be hard here soon enough.....saying Sorry may not physically help anyone...but it does help people cope....
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Sorry to here this Mike, you and your family will be in our prayers.
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Thanks Kerry....sure is hard to sit here and believe that the Man I am looking at...who seems to be getting better...or at least holding His own...is going to take a big turn for the worst...at any time now....and there is nothing anyone can do for him....but be here for Him.
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but be here for Him.
That is the most important thing you can be doing right now.
Bevan R
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My sister, 2 brothers and myself took care of our Mom at home for the last week of her life. Having her kids there was all she needed. Feel fortunate that you are there with your Dad now.
You and your family are in my thoughts, Mike.
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I am sad to hear this news about your father. As a husband and a parent I worry the most about my bride and my children being in a good. If you can let your dad know that you will be ok because of the fine job he did raising you. It will comfort him and give his soul peace. This poem was written by a man that had lost his wife and two daughters. Yet he did not lose hope. Sometimes it is very difficult to stay hopeful. Especially when life is not fair. I hope the poem will bring you some comfort
The First Snow-Fall By James Russell Lowell
THE SNOW had begun in the gloaming,
And busily all the night
Had been heaping field and highway
With a silence deep and white.
Every pine and fir and hemlock Wore ermine too dear for an earl,
And the poorest twig on the elm-tree
Was ridged inch deep with pearl.
From sheds new-roofed with Carrara
Came Chanticleer’s muffled crow, The stiff rails softened to swan’s-down,
And still fluttered down the snow.
I stood and watched by the window
The noiseless work of the sky,
And the sudden flurries of snow-birds, Like brown leaves whirling by.
I thought of a mound in sweet Auburn
Where a little headstone stood;
How the flakes were folding it gently,
As did robins the babes in the wood.
Up spoke our own little Mabel,
Saying, “Father, who makes it snow?”And I told of the good All-father
Who cares for us here below.
Again I looked at the snow-fall,
And thought of the leaden sky
That arched o’er our first great sorrow,
When that mound was heaped so high.
I remembered the gradual patience
That fell from that cloud like snow, Flake by flake, healing and hiding
The scar that renewed our woe.
And again to the child I whispered,
“The snow that husheth all,
Darling, the merciful Father
Alone can make it fall!”
Then, with eyes that saw not, I kissed her;
And she, kissing back, could not know
That my kiss was given to her sister,
Folded close under deepening snow.
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Hang in there Mike, very sad but we all got to go through it, I was with my dad when he passed and it ant easy but I would think better than not being their. Thinking about you and your family. :(
Pappy
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My thoughts and prayers are with you Mike. Stay strong.
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Thanks for the strength....and the Thoughts and Prayers of everyone.....God Bless
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Havent posted, but been sending a few up for you, and will continue to do so.
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Prayers and thoughts for you and your family. It's good that you can be there with and for him.
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... I was with my dad when he passed and it ant easy but I would think better than not being their. ...
So true.
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i will be praying for you and your family..john
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Thanks Guys....and Pappy...you are totally correct....aunt easy....threw is no way that I would not be here....and is he holds on longer than I can away home....at least I git to spend quality time with Him before he passes.
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El D, that is far more important than you can realize, for both of you. For him now, and for you later on, knowing you were there, and not wishing you had gone. It makes the journey to the other side far more easy for him, with you there, even if you have to leave before then. It gives him peace of mind, knowing he did well with you, and peace of mind for you knowing you were there to tell him what he means to you, and to thank him for all he has done for you. Including knocking some of the rough edges off of you when you needed it. ;D Again, Buddy, my thoughts and prayers are with You and your Dad and Family.
Wayne
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Thanks Wayne...He's doing good....ain't eating much...says he ain't hungry...and when he doew eat....he's picking....got one Lymph Gland swelling in his neck....and is on oxygen more now too.
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You know I am with you Mike hang in there and be tough
Ron
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Thanks Ron....
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Mike Your in our hearts and prayers daily Bro. Through this life the only thing that really matters is the relationships that we build along the way. I can tell by your words that you both hold that high in priority, Hold fast to the hope in the life to come. I am trying to spend some time with my parents as well as mom has Alzheimer's and dad has had two recent heart attacks. That is why I'm driving down to Texas after the Classic so I can spend a little time. Take one day at a time and be there when you can. I am sure that hes has cherished every minute that you have been there.
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Thanks Keenan....Hospice Nurse came over...checked Dads lungs...said the pneumonia was going away....lungs sounded good...then she checked his B.P.....it was a little high....she drew blood....the results came back....his Hemoglobin was down...white count is up.....and platelets are down too....so not good news at all....the leukemia is doing it work destroying blood cells...so its just a matter of time.
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Sorry to hear that Mike. I've been thinking about you and your family alot lately and still praying for you. Be strong and hang in there. Lost my dad almost ten years ago now.
David
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Mike for what it's worth I'm with you in mind and spirit. Hang in there buddy. Ron
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Woke up this morning...and Dad was like he was when I came Home last Summer...all full of shit...went to my Sisters across the Road to Shower..cause dad was going to shower and get ready for Company...well when I got back He had an episode in the Shower...he ran out of Air..got Him back on Oxygen...but everything went downhill from that point..never ate all day...had problems drinking...and was choking on everything He swallowed...Called the Doctor..and got him to prescribe some sort of Mouthwash that coats His Mouth and throat..and numbs it to help Him to swallow again...seemed to help a bit....He hasn't eaten in days now...He has blood in his Urine ...I can't imagine the pain He is in...but He admits to none...won't touch the Morphine..It has been a rough go for all of Us...I am so glad that I have such strong Sisters to help me stay strong ...because I am supposed to be the Strong One right now...I am the Eldest...it's my Job to be here for them all...I just pray it comes swift...He don't deserve this...He's too strong and proud of a Man to go out this way...
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My Father passed at 6:15 this morning...after days of terrible suffering....I hate myself for feeling glad that He has gone...but He is at Peace now I lost my Dad...my Hunting and Fishing partner...and my Friend...I am just thankful that He was given another 16 months from His Bladder Cancer to get to see how my two Sons have grown up...and got to make an impression on their lives too.. Rest Now Dad...We all Love You
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Im sorry, Mike.
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Mike don't hate you're self you arent glad he is gone, you are glad he isn't suffering any more. My condolences and best wishes for an emothional healing. Ronnie
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My deepest condolences Mike. Don't mourn his death, celebrate his life and by the end of the day, your cheeks'll be sore from the grinning...
Rest in peace, Mike's dad.
Steve.
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Sorry to hear this Mike, I like to believe your Dad is in a better place now !
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Sorry for your loss Mike. May he rest in peace.
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Sorry Mike I am here for ya bud
Ron
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So sorry to hear this El D. he is in pain no more, and that is something to be glad about. God bless.
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Stay strong Mike. You are in my prayers.
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I'm sorry, Mike. Thanks for letting us know.
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I'm sorry to hear that Mike. God bless.
George
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Mike,
Thank you for having the courage to share this with us. I pray for comfort and peace for you and your family. God blesse, Cipriano
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Mike, My condolences to You and your Family. Don't be upset at yourself, for being glad that he finally passed, it is normal, to want to see his suffering gone, by whatever means. It was going to happen, and he is no longer suffering. Don't angry, but be proud that you were there when he really needed you to be. It is not an easy thing to watch a loved one slowly die, especially if they are suffering. It is extremely difficult to be with them, and watch their pain, having nothing to ease it, but your presence, and voice. I truly believe he is better now. Like HatchA said, don't mourn his death, celebrate his life, and think of all the good times you had together, and his little quirks, and funny things that happened to him, and to you when you were together. When I was about 14 or so I had gotten in an argument about something with my Dad, and told him I was not going hunting with him down in the Big Cypress "Swamp, where we had a camp. He said, well ok, but I was going to show you the Indian Mummies, I saw. Well he knew I was interested in Indian mounds, and such, So, I said what Mummies? He said he had found some on his way to the camp, once, but didn't want to bother them. Well Now my curiosity is overtaking my anger. Ok, lets go. So I keep asking him where abouts he found them, he said, well, when we get there I can show you, them easier than trying to give you directions. Ok, so we finally get to the Indian reservation that we had to go through to get to the old cattle road to the camp, and as we are driving through the reservation, I said Ok, just where are these Indian Mummies you keep talking about, he said ok, I will show you....Well I am expecting to go out of our way to some remote section of the swamp, but as we are passing some Indian women and their children, he said there you go, I said there you go what? He said, pointing to the women and children, there are your Indian Mummies....... ;D I was so mad I could have eaten a bowl of fried nails! But the more I thought about it the funnier it got. He threw the bait out, and I nailed it and swallowed it hook line and sinker! It ended up we had a great time hunting together. I sure wish he was still here to go hunting with. You will find that every now and then you will think of some event that will make you laugh, or at the very least smile. I miss my Mother and Father very much, and everyday, I find something I need to ask one of them, that they would know how to do, etc. Each day, that passes, you do not forget him, but you can handle his being gone, a little bit easier. There will always be times, when you will see something, or do something, that will remind you of him. Mike again, I am sorry for your loss, and thankful that you were able to be there with him, and that he is no longer suffering. God bless You and Your Family, and I pray for peace of mind for You and your Family.
Wayne
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Sorry for your loss Mike but thankful your Dad isn't suffering anymore! I went through a similar situation a few years ago with my Mom. It is never easy to go through these life events but we all will at some point.
My condolences to you and your family.
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Mike: Nothing can make this experience easier to take or understand. The "circle of life" has placed you in the same status that your father had with you and you now share with your sons. Be thankful that you are still building memories with them! Hope to shake your hand and enjoy you at the Classic! A/Ho Udo, Joe
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Sorry for your loss, Mike.
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I can't say much that hasn't already been said, but I wish you and your family the best. You got some good medicine coming at the end of the month that will help ease the pain. Looking forward to meeting the good son that your father raised, at the end of the month!
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Sorry for your loss Mike, I just told Lulyn and she said to let you know our heart breaks for you brother. We know all to well the mixed feelings of being relieved a loved one is out of pain but the harsh reality that they are awayfor now. We hold to the hope of seeing them again and not in pain at that point. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. Keenan & Lulyn
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Mike,
I am very sorry for your loss. There are no words really.... Just know you are in our thoughts and our prayers.
Marie
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Thank You ...All...for all of the Support and Prayers...It was the roughest thing I have had to do so far in my Life...but I would not have done it a bit different if I had the Choice...My Place was Here...with Him in the days before He passed...to say all that needed to be said...and to comfort and console Him in His Hour of need...that's what Children are supposed to do....I am not sure at this time if I will be able to make the Classic this Year...this has sapped my Finances right now...we will have to see what I can do....I have not counted it totally out...but as times get closer...it is looking bleaker....we will just have to wait and see...
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Mike, therse not really much to say; my condolences to you and all of your family.
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Thank You Frank...He will b missed by so many....but remembered too........
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Mike, i am at a loss for words. ive never had to deal with the death of a parent.
i can only imagine how you feel and i feel for you my friend.
you are in our thoughts.
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Sorry to hear that Mike,I feel for you.Hang in there and I will be thinking of you.
Pappy
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condolences to you and your Mike.
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Thought of you when I read this...
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My condolences Mike. I truly understand your feelings, as I went through the same thing with my Dad. Being there is a blessing even though some of the thoughts you may have feel betraying now. I went through those feelings also. It was so bad for me near the end that I had very negative thoughts when next to him, unconscious, in the middle of the night, alone. When the end came it was a relief. I'm sure you know this and it is said frequently, but time does help dismiss the negative emotions and you will be left with the good memories. The awful things you've gone though being there for him will fade. Nothing ever replaces the loss, though.
Be proud you gave him the gifts you did.
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Truly sorry El D.
Lane
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Thanks guys..I left Upper Michigan today at 10 am...dropped sister off in Detroit...and am now heading to Texas....have 1200 miles to go...
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im sorry for your loss :'(, i know it must be hard, that type of thing never seems fair, if i can do anything to help at all, tell me
noel
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Your family is in my prayers, El D
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Heartbreaking news Mike. I know just what you mean about feeling guilty, but when your loved ones are suffering beyond belief, it is hard to watch, and it a relief to see their suffering end. May God be with you and yours Sir.
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sorry for your loss, Mike, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Thank You Guys....and with all of the friends I had with Me at the Classic...it helped in the Healing Process too...had a few good cries with some Great People...and Kathy...you were my Healing force when I was losing it.... ;)